While I didn’t have quite such a struggle when I went back to work because I was a very overwhelmed first time mom and needed the break that working provided (because for me, work is the break… note to all of you that think staying at home is so fun and easy!). I, now that I have sunk into the parenting thing a bit more, feel more like this mom. I desire more time with my son. But I also like (and more-or-less need) to work.
Here is what I said to her…
· The time away from your baby ABSOLUTELY makes your time with him that much more precious. You appreciate and live that time to the fullest when you have those breaks.
· Live through a few weekends- you will feel like you get a lot of time back on weekends. Also, remember that as teachers, we get a lot more time with our kiddos than a lot of working parents.
· I think that getting breaks from parenting through work gives you more patience in parenting. I am feeling this even more now that I have a two year old. On weekends I feel my patience with his two-year-old-ness dwindling by Sunday evening. (granted, I don’t ever build up the resistance that full-time moms seem to master)
· Think of all the wonderful skills your baby is learning by being cared for by someone other than mommy and daddy, and being around kids that aren’t family
· Yes, your day care child will get sick more initially- but not as they get older… he will be a TANK later in life
Do I struggle with being a working mom- yes. Do I see the downsides of that decision- yes. But everything has a bright side and this is not an exception to that rule. You can still be a present parent and enjoy every piece of raising your child. Your child can still get everything they need (and then some). This is just one way- not right or wrong- and my family is having a happy life living it!